My husband and I are amongst the last of our “friend couples” to have a baby. For everyone else, they have children that are already over a year old (whereas our son is four months). So in many respects they are the “wiser” and more experienced parents. Now, all of us are fairly young (26-32), college graduates – many with our MAs, and most of us are working professionally in some sort of capacity. I say this not to sound haughty but to give some background, so please bear with me – though I am sure many already know where this is going!
With all of this wisdom and success, none of these “smart” people use cloth diapers except for my husband and me. And it not even something any of them have considered! Granted, a year ago I felt much the same way but it was for different reasons. I had thought cloth diapering was gross, but for some of my friends, they have so much misinformation! Take one friend for example. She believes that cloth diapers are old-fashioned, unsanitary, cause rashes, and people who use them are dumb! It is her continued unwillingness to investigate and find the truth that is amazing. I researched and found out the truth about cloth and how easy and healthy it actually is for babies! Yet she continues to be dismissive.
Recently, another friend was proudly talking about all the things she does for the health of her family – specifically, buying organic-only food because as she put it, she would rather have to spend more money initially (i.e. on food) as opposed to later (i.e. medicine and medical procedures). And while I applaud her desire to keep her family safe from toxins, I watch her put disposable after disposable on her toddler. She does not even see the contradiction of putting chemical-laced disposables against her little one’s skin all day long for the past 2.5 years!
For many of the others, they have no interest in cloth, even though they know we use cloth diapers. One looked with feigned interest when I showed them to her; while another claimed it would be too time consuming due to all the extra trips up and down stairs to the laundry room. Sounds to me like an easy way to get some exercise!
Granted I have those who are more supportive as well, though they are few and far between. One friend who only uses “eco-friendly” disposables asks how cloth diapering is going for us, but that’s as far as she will go. Or my favorite happened just last week at an area pregnancy “center” where we had gone for educational classes during my pregnancy. Since no one else was interested in cloth diapering, they gave us all cloth diapers they had in stock –which were 7 brand-name pocket diapers, 300 compostable liners, 20 flats, 2 sets of pins, and even a few pairs of the traditional plastic pants/covers! And everything was brand new! I was amazed at their generosity, and they were just glad to have someone to finally give them to because no one else wanted the items! (For some reason, I have a sneaky feeling The Cloth Diaper Whisperer’s readers are going to be raiding their local pregnancy centers! :) .
All in all, the thing that has amazed me the most from my friends is the general disregard most of them have for it. For the most part, there is no malice or ill-will, they just don’t care! And these are the people who love fuel-efficiency in their cars, recycle, turn off lights, and do many things to be “green friendly!” While I am glad to know that this is not the case for many of you (in fact, it sounds like there are many friend groups where the majority use cloth!), I am curious about those who are in similar situations like me. What sorts of experiences (good and bad!) have you had as the “oddball” of the group?
Rebecca Brown is proud to be breaking cloth diaper myths in her area; while covertly working to switch people over to cloth in hopes that when they do, they’ll give her diapers as thank you gifts!