As we prepared for the birth of our first child, my husband’s view on cloth diapering was of partial acceptance–fine if I want to use them, but don’t expect him to deal with them. I began using pre-folds and decided not to push the issue at first even though it really wasn’t difficult to use them.
After about a month, I decided to get a few one-size all-in-one diapers to try out, figuring that they would be great daddy diapers and excitedly showed him how easily he could change our daughter’s diapers too. He watched (distractedly, I might add), but was not exactly sharing my enthusiasm. A few weeks passed by before he made it to the changing table, but after wards he proudly brought our daughter to me, diapered and freshly dressed in her pajamas, ready for bed. I took her from him and was in the middle of returning the praise he so obviously wanted when I noticed that her diaper felt a little different than I expected. I asked him which kind of diaper he used, and he seemed confused, replying that he used the easy one I had gotten for him.
However, instead of getting the all-in-one diaper, he had actually pulled out a pre-fold (which he swore he would never use because it’s too complicated) and figured out how to fold it, fit it to her, and fasten it snuggly on. I was very impressed and let him know that he actually did a great job putting the “hard” diaper on. Apparently he had not paid much attention when I showed the AIO to him…except for the comment about only needing to put one thing on her, not separate pieces, so I realized with a jolt of anxiety that I was holding a baby in an expertly placed cotton prefold without a cover.
Just as I was finishing answering my husband’s question about why a cover is necessary, our daughter decided to illustrate the point. We had to laugh before going to change her again–he hasn’t forgotten to use a cover over a prefold since. Now he tells other people with pride that we use cloth diapers for our baby (and he really thinks that AIOs are super easy!).
Contributed by Alicia D.